Wednesday, June 30, 2010

Thursday morning in Beijing

Carol here. We just had a yummy breakfast buffet at our hotel-you know me and food! And the coffee is excellent.

We slept about 9 hours on our firmer than American beds, and we slept well. Yesterday when we arrived we spent the afternoon walking inside and outside the upscale mall nearby -filled with young people- and ate dinner at a Taiwanese fast food place in the mall. Chris's chopsticks skills are climbing the steep learning curve.

Today we are off to the Great Wall and Summer Palace. Very smoggy here in Beijing. I can see about 4 blocks away and then nothing. We expect to post some pictures tonight.

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It's been a long day

Going to bed now
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We made it!

We just checked into our hotel. Trying to stay awake for a few hours.
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Sunday, June 27, 2010

Our Itinerary in China

We leave in less than two days! And here's the basics of what we will be up to:

June 29: Leave United States; only about 16 hours of travel time

June 30: Arrive Beijing, China in afternoon

July 1: Great Wall at Ju Yong Guan and Summer Palace

July 2: Tian'anmen Square, Forbidden City, and Hutongs; Overnight train to Xi'an

July 3: Xi'an City Walls, Wild Goose Pagoda, Shaanxi History Museum

July 4: Terra Cotta Warriors and Muslim Quarter (shooping & food); fly to Chengdu in evening

July 5: GOTCHA DAY in Chengdu!! (Jack Yiyun joins us!)

July 6-9: Spend time together as a new family, adoption appointments, visit Chengdu Panda Base

July 9: Fly to Guangzhou late afternoon

July 10-14: Spend time together as a new family, adoption appointments, visit Chan Clan Academy and Five Rams Park; evening cruise on Pearl River

July 15: Fly home to United States

Friday, June 18, 2010

A Different Perspective

As you read this story below, you will see how the wife represents Jack Yiyun.

Imagine for a moment…
You have met the person you’ve dreamed about all your life. He has every quality that you desire in a spouse. You plan for the wedding, enjoying every free moment with your fiancĂ©e. You love his touch, his smell, the way he looks into your eyes. For the first time in your life, you understand what is meant by “soul mate,” for this person understands you in a way that no one else does. Your heart beats in rhythm with his. Your emotions are intimately tied to his every joy, his every sorrow.

The wedding comes. It is a happy celebration, but the best part is that you are finally the wife of this wonderful man. You fall asleep that night, exhausted from the day’s events, but relaxed and joyful in the knowledge that you are next to the person who loves you more than anyone in the world…the person who will be with you for the rest of your life. The next morning you wake up, nestled in your partner’s arms. You open your eyes and immediately look for his face. But it’s not him! You are in the arms of another man. You recoil in horror. Who is this man?

Where is your beloved?
You ask questions of the new man, but it quickly becomes apparent that he doesn’t understand you. You search every room in the house, calling and calling for your husband. The new guy follows you around, trying to hug you, pat you on the back. . .even trying to stroke your arm, acting like everything is okay. But you know that nothing is okay. Your beloved is gone. Where is he? Will he return? When? What has happened to him? Weeks pass. You cry and cry over the loss of your beloved. Sometimes you ache silently, in shock over what has happened. The new guy tries to comfort you. You appreciate his attempts, but he doesn’t speak your language-either verbally or emotionally. He doesn’t seem to realize the terrible thing that has happened...that your sweetheart is gone.

You find it difficult to sleep. The new guy tries to comfort you at bedtime with soft words and gentle touches, but you avoid him, preferring to sleep alone, away from him and any intimate words or contact. Months later, you still ache for your beloved, but gradually you are learning to trust this new guy. He’s finally learned that you like your coffee black, not doctored up with cream and sugar. Although you still don’t understand his bedtime songs, you like the lilt of his voice and take some comfort in it. More time passes. One morning, you wake up to find a full suitcase sitting next to the front door. You try to ask him about it, but he just takes you by the hand and leads you to the car. You drive and drive and drive. Nothing is familiar. Where are you? Where is he taking you?

You pull up to a large building. He leads you to an elevator and up to a room filled with people. Many are crying. Some are ecstatic with joy. You are confused. And worried. The man leads you over to the corner. Another man opens his arms and sweeps you up in an embrace. He rubs your back and kisses your cheeks, obviously thrilled to see you. You are anything but thrilled to see him. Who in the world is he? Where is your beloved? You reach for the man who brought you, but he just smiles (although he seems to be tearing up, which concerns you), pats you on the back, and puts your hand in the hands of the new guy. The new guy picks up your suitcase and leads you to the door. The familiar face starts openly crying, waving and waving as the elevator doors close on you and the new guy. The new guy drives you to an airport and you follow him, not knowing what else to do. Sometimes you cry, but then the new guy tries to make you smile, so you grin back, wanting to “get along.” You board a plane. The flight is long. You sleep a lot, wanting to mentally escape from the situation.

Hours later, the plane touches down. The new guy is very excited and leads you into the airport where dozens of people are there to greet you. Light bulbs flash as your photo is taken again and again. The new guy takes you to another guy who hugs you. Who is this one? You smile at him. Then you are taken to another man who pats your back and kisses your cheek. Then yet another fellow gives you a big hug and messes your hair. Finally, someone (which guy is this?) pulls you into his arms with the biggest hug you’ve ever had. He kisses you all over your cheeks and croons to you in some language you’ve never heard before.

He leads you to a car and drives you to another location. Everything here looks different. The climate is not what you’re used to. The smells are strange. Nothing tastes familiar, except for the black coffee. You wonder if someone told him that you like your coffee black. You find it nearly impossible to sleep. Sometimes you lie in bed for hours, staring into the blackness, furious with your husband for leaving you, yet aching from the loss. The new guy checks on you. He seems concerned and tries to comfort you with soft words and a mug of warm milk. You turn away, pretending to go to asleep.

People come to the house. You can feel the anxiety start to bubble over as you look into the faces of all the new people. You tightly grasp the new guy’s hand. He pulls you closer. People smile and nudge one other, marveling at how quickly you’ve fallen in love. Strangers reach for you, wanting to be a part of the happiness. Each time a man hugs you, you wonder if he will be the one to take you away. Just in case, you keep your suitcase packed and ready. Although the man at this house is nice and you’re hanging on for dear life, you’ve learned from experience that men come and go, so you just wait in expectation for the next one to come along.

Each morning, the new guy hands you a cup of coffee and looks at you expectantly. A couple of times the pain and anger for your husband is so great that you lash out, sending hot coffee across the room, causing the new guy to yelp in pain. He just looks at you, bewildered. But most of the time you calmly take the cup. You give him a smile. And wait. And wait. And wait.

How would each of us handle all these changes?

How would this impact us for the rest of our lives?


©2006 Cynthia Hockman-Chupp. Cynthia is an adoptive parent, teacher, and writer who has learned the most about parenting from her children. She operates a website with Heidi Louella, another adoptive parent and teacher, called http://www.a4everfamily.org/ with great information for families that are dealing with the challenges of attachment in young children.
Her analogy is courtesy of Dr. Kali Miller, an attachment therapist.


The bonding among the three of us is an extremely important part of Jack Yiyun’s development and our growth as a family. As his parents, Chris and I are responsible for creating a safe place for Jack Yiyun, so that when it's time for him to meet his new extended family, he'll feel secure through and through.

We love all of you and can't wait for all of us to get to know each other. But please be patient as we welcome Jack Yiyun as our son with all the time and care he needs.

Wednesday, June 9, 2010

Consulate Appointment and Travel Dates!

Our U.S. Consulate appointment is confirmed for July 12!
We will begin our travel to China on June 29!
Expecting to return on July 15!
-- with our son in our arms!

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

Hoping we can see these guys when we travel

Well not the Peeps version of the Terra Cotta Warriors (credit to Kathy Ansell in the Washington Post Peeps Show IV), but the real thing in Xi'an!


Saturday, June 5, 2010

We got our USCIS updated approval today!

What more can I say? How about we expect to travel by the end of the month. I should have confirmation by the end of this week.

Hurray!!!

Wednesday, June 2, 2010

Re-enlistment at Ground Zero

My DH, sailor of 18 years, re-enlisted last week at Ground Zero in NYC during Fleet Week. I'm so pround of you, Chief!

Here are some pictures: